Back in 1991 or so, I placed a personal ad in the East Bay Express. I was a junior at Cal, and I was getting absolutely nowhere trying to find a boyfriend through the university's gay social networks [long story short, they were a bunch of annoying, whiny, skinny, depilated ACT UP/Queer Nation types who thought I was disgusting, and who were horrified that I wanted to have sex with big furry Bears.] So, for the first and last time in my life, I placed a personal ad. It probably said something like... oh, hell, I can't remember. God help me if I used the word "cub", but anything's possible; at any rate, it was clear that I was a Bear and was looking for a fellow bruin.
Three people responded.
The first was none other than Lewis Day, a very handsome librarian who worked up the street from my apartment at the time. He's since moved to Boston, I think, and has settled down with Sherman Hankey, whose name was funny up until that South Park episode. Now, it's downright hilarious. Lewis and I had one date, followed by good but awkward sex. [Hey, I was young and still not even remotely at ease with casual sex.] I was kind of flustered by the whole thing, and avoided talking to Lewis again because I was embarassed that I liked him so much. So, that was that... until we ran into each other at a Bear Pride in Chicago in the late 1990s, at which point I apologized and we made out. Score!
The second was Mark Bingham, otherwise known as Our Dead Gay Hero. We wound up dating for a couple years... you know the story. I've told it to death.
The third was a man by the name of Mark, who apparently did his undergraduate work at Lewis and Clark College; I think he got his degree in German. If I remember correctly, he'd started working on his masters degree in public health at Berkeley.
I never did call that Mark - he'd left a message a few days after I'd met Mark B... Mark B. and I seemed to hit it off really well, so I just stuck with that Mark.
So... my question for you, dear reader, is this: Any idea who that other Mark might have been?